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Learning how to listen without getting defensive is one of the most important relationship skills a person in relationship can develop — and one of the most underestimated. When your partner shares something vulnerable, especially something that involves you, the natural reflex is to defend. But that reflex quietly erodes trust in a relationship. This article explores a simple mental shift that builds real emotional intimacy, one conversation at a time.

How many times have you found yourself in a disagreement with your partner and, without even realizing it, you’re building a case—like a lawyer trying to convince a jury?

Some of the most important aspects of our relationships are the hardest to measure. We easily notice when our partner looks lovingly into our eyes, when conversations flow effortlessly, or when we simply feel energized and joyful in each other's presence. Similarly, when distrust creeps in, or when there’s tension in the space between us, we feel it immediately. It’s unmistakable and impossible to ignore, yet challenging to pin down precisely or address using a straightfo

Some of the most important aspects of our relationships are the hardest to measure. We easily notice when our partner looks lovingly into our eyes, when conversations flow effortlessly, or when we simply feel energized and joyful in each other's presence. Similarly, when distrust creeps in, or when there’s tension in the space between us, we feel it immediately. It’s unmistakable and impossible to ignore, yet challenging to pin down precisely or address using a straightfo

Two clients had the a similar conflict in their respective, newer relationship. One couple got closer, one split up. What was the difference

It’s an age-old question in relationship. Is it my fault my partner is mad at me? Or is it just my partner misinterpreting my actions?

A woman described a recurring frustration in her marriage: “I get so mad when my husband forgets to buy stuff on the grocery list. He...

After decades of coaching couples and singles, we know that agreeing on important (and sometimes not-so-important) topics can be an...

Most of us know all too well how it feels when someone “takes things personally”. It’s frustrating! We don’t get to focus on and finish...

What happens in your relationship after you have a fight or any kind of upset? I don’t mean how you got into the fight. I mean, what...

A client sent us an example of a breakdown from her marriage. She said … I cleaned out the very dirty and cluttered garage making more...

As a younger man, I really wanted to find “The One”. I was much too private to tell anyone, but I dreamed of a happy-ever-after ending to...

Fighting with your partner sucks! It’s exhausting, it hurts, and it sours the mood in your relationship. So it’s only natural that many ...

How do you stop fighting in a relationship? This is an all-important question for anyone in a serious relationship. In most...

Do you ever feel judged and criticized by your partner? Do you have the sense that your husband doesn’t value you or your wife doesn’t...

“We go from zero to a hundred in no time – there’s no in-between!” A woman in our last workshop described how she and her husband often ...

If you have reached the point where you’re saying, “We are getting a divorce! What do I do?” then this post is a place for you to start....

Have you ever found yourself in the kind of relationship where you’re asking, “Am I in a toxic relationship?” or “Is this relationship...

She had the same old fight she always had with her husband, but this time, he threw his hands up and said he was done. She was shocked ...

Do you ever find it difficult to trust in a relationship? To trust your partner? We talk to so many couples who have problems with broken...