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Some of the most important aspects of our relationships are the hardest to measure. We easily notice when our partner looks lovingly into our eyes, when conversations flow effortlessly, or when we simply feel energized and joyful in each other's presence. Similarly, when distrust creeps in, or when there’s tension in the space between us, we feel it immediately. It’s unmistakable and impossible to ignore, yet challenging to pin down precisely or address using a straightfo

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking I just need to say this louder, explain it better, or repeat it again and again. 

Before and during summer, lots of fights are happening in households and relationships about how to spend the vacation time.

A woman described a recurring frustration in her marriage: “I get so mad when my husband forgets to buy stuff on the grocery list. He...

On a group coaching call I led yesterday, we talked about how we “fill in the blanks”.  This came up when someone mentioned a challenge...

After decades of coaching couples and singles, we know that agreeing on important (and sometimes not-so-important) topics can be an...

Most of us know all too well how it feels when someone “takes things personally”. It’s frustrating! We don’t get to focus on and finish...

Defensiveness is a natural response to criticism, blame, or accusations that we feel are unjust or unwarranted. However, when...

Our communication course is starting tomorrow, so we’re thinking about effective communication a lot! In our last blog post, we talked...

A client sent us an example of a breakdown from her marriage. She said … I cleaned out the very dirty and cluttered garage making more...

Does it ever puzzle you that your partner doesn't get what you're saying? Do you ever feel you you're being perfectly clear in your...

As a younger man, I really wanted to find “The One”. I was much too private to tell anyone, but I dreamed of a happy-ever-after ending to...

Some time back, my daughter asked me to rub her back. I noticed myself hesitate. My addiction to my phone took over - I wanted to keep...

Just last week, a woman sent me an email saying, “I am so sad and frustrated that my husband doesn’t listen to what I say!” Many couples...

Sonika and I enjoy a good series as much as the next binge watcher. Given our profession, it’s perhaps not surprising that we like shows...

I have had a lot of experiences in life when I made a decision to do something that I knew my partner didn’t want me to do. Each time,...

Do you ever feel judged and criticized by your partner? Do you have the sense that your husband doesn’t value you or your wife doesn’t...

I’m reading a great book called Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria by Dr. Beverly Tatum. In the chapter I was...

How often do spouses wonder how to make their partner happy? Do you ever wonder how to make your husband happy? Does it sometimes seem...

In the beginning of your relationship, when you’re all enamored and in love – AKA the Honeymoon Phase – your partner is the best. You...