You've probably already tried to work on it
You’ve tried talking it through.
You’ve tried being patient.
You’ve tried giving space — or pushing harder.
And somehow, the same patterns keep showing up.
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That's not a character flaw. It's a signal that something in how you're communicating needs to shift — not just what you're saying, but how you're showing up.
What we do is simple — but not easy.
We help you see what’s actually happening beneath the surface of your conversations — and give you practical tools to change it.
Not theories. Not endless analysis.
Every session, you leave with something concrete to try. Something that can shift things — sometimes right away.
This is for you if:
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You’re successful in your work — but relationships feel harder than they should.
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You're the one who keeps trying to fix things — and quietly resenting it.
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You've had the same conversation so many times you've stopped having it.
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You're not sure if the problem is them, you, or both — but you're willing to look honestly.
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You understand that real change starts with you — not with fixing your partner. Whether you come alone or as a couple, the work that matters most is the honest look inward.
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You want something to actually change — not just be talked about.
Ways to work together
Individual Coaching
(Most clients start here)
Private one-on-one coaching to shift the patterns that keep you stuck — and change how you relate in every part of your life.
Couples coaching
Stop having the same conversations over and over — and start creating real connection again.
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Residential coaching intensive
(For couples ready to go deep)
A private, immersive experience at our home in the Sierra Nevada foothills. Over one-and-a-half days (one overnight), you work with us individually and together — going further in a weekend than most couples go in months of weekly sessions.
This is for couples who are serious about change and want to move quickly.
Ask us about this in your free private chat.
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Results from our clients
"My marriage fell apart and I had to leave my home of 20 years. Christian helped me pick up the pieces. He helped me see how I was choosing to interpret events, beating myself up, playing old tapes — and then showed me how to find new ones. He will help you find yourself."