Mini-Workshops for Couples

A mini-workshop is a short, focused relationship course, 90 minutes or less. Mini-workshops can be done anytime from your couch, kitchen table, or bedroom. Each mini-workshop deals with one relationship issue, such as reviving intimacy, rebuilding trust, staying in love, resolving conflicts, and many more. We guide you through a step-by-step process and you learn by practicing as you go. Every mini-workshop gives you lasting relationship tools and skills.

 

You get access to the mini-workshops through either the Basic Plan or the Advanced Plan. The Basic plan has three mini-workshop with essential foundational tools. The Advanced plan gives you access to our entire catalogue of cutting-edge skills for relationship, communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy. Plus you get written PDF's for all courses and a 50% discount for your first coaching session (if you'd like support in a private space with Sonika or Christian). You can browse our mini-workshops below.

Basic Plan
Essential Relationship Skills

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Advanced Plan
Unlimited Access to all our tools and skill-building mini-workshops

You also get: 

  • All Basic Plan Videos

  • PDF companion handbooks for all mini-workshops

  • 50% off your first coaching session

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Intimacy

How To Revive Intimacy

Little or no intimacy in a marriage or relationship is hard and can eventually wear you down. As you might know, intimacy often dwindles or disappears over time. But it’s possible to build emotional intimacy with your partner with these simple steps and exercises. This mini-workshop walks you through the process, step by step.

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How To Revive Intimacy in your relationship

How to Get More Intimacy, Sex and Affection

In the beginning of relationship, you have intimacy, sex, and affection. But we all know the “Life happens” scenario: Work, kids, and chores take over and we forget about touching, kissing, playing, and making love. Fortunately, you can rekindle your sex and affection, no matter where you are right now, by learning some simple tricks and engaging in easy activities together.

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In Love Again: How To Bring Out The Best In Your Relationship

In Love Again: How To Bring Out The Best In Your Relationship

Remember when you were first in love? When your relationship was fun and easy? But now, you’re not exactly excited to see each other, and you notice criticism and complaint sneaking into your relationship. This doesn’t have to be your love story! With some simple insights and processes, you can learn to bring out the very best in your relationship. Even be in love again!

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Time Together or Time Apart

Remember when you were first in love? When your relationship was fun and easy? But now, you’re not exactly excited to see each other, and you notice criticism and complaint sneaking into your relationship. This doesn’t have to be your love story! With some simple insights and processes, you can learn to bring out the very best in your relationship. Even be in love again!

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Conflict Resolution

 

How to Protect Each Other when You're Vulnerable 

In many mini-workshops, we offer empowering tools and techniques to help you be your fullest potential in relationship. There’s another side to relationships, though, namely when you’re feeling vulnerable, scared, tender and small. Even the most powerful among us have a “scared kid” inside. To have a safe and deep relationship, we must include and embrace the vulnerable parts. This mini-workshop shows you how.

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How to Be More Understanding
During Disagreements

Disagreements often cause irreparable rifts in a relationship. You start off having a civil discussion, but may find yourself angry and unable to listen to each other. Since disagreements are inevitable, why not learn how to be understanding and remain connected, even when you disagree? This mini-workshop show you how, step by step.

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How To Rebuild Trust In A Relationship
Especially after Broken Trust and Breakdowns

You must have trust in a relationship if you want to open your heart, body and soul. Trust fosters safety, connection and emotional intimacy. But there are so many ways trust can be broken or betrayed. Someone doesn't show up on time repeatedly. Someone lies or has an affair. Breaches of trust don't have to be the end. If you still have love for each other, you can rebuild trust in your relationship and each other.

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How To Deal With Triggers

In any marriage or relationship, you’re going to get triggered. Your partner is going to do or say stuff that drives you nuts or upsets you. Any argument you have starts with one or both of you getting triggered. Learning to deal with triggers is an essential foundational skill for a successful relationship. Learn our process for dealing with and talking about triggers and how to change them.

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How To De-Escalate Conflicts

You start out having a normal conversation about something, but pretty soon you’re arguing about …. what, exactly? Escalations are emotionally taxing and physically exhausting for both of you. Escalations break down your trust and you never reach resolution. Learn six ways to de-escalate, including a step-by-step process to have a civil conversation when you’re triggered.

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How To Handle Judgments

Do you ever feel judged or criticized in your relationship? Or perhaps you’re the one doing the judging and criticizing? It’s hard feeling judged, when you sense your partner making unfair assessments about you. Judgments are a fact of relationship, so we must learn to handle them positively. Learn several tools to use judgments for increased understanding, compassion, and connection.

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How To Avoid Fights

Do you end up in pointless fights with your partner? Do you have conversations that start out calmly, turn into blow-ups? Over time, fighting saps your hope and enthusiasm. On the bright side, you can rest assured there are SO MANY better ways you can communicate. In this mini-workshop, we give you a variety of tools to unilaterally turn things around (and if you both do it, you both win:-)

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Communication Skills

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How to Be on the Same Team

When you and your partner work as a well-functioning team, you can handle anything life throws at you. Since no two people are identical, it is inevitable that you will disagree at times; and sometimes it’s hard to get on the same page. In order to make successful decisions, you have to be on the same team. Learn a step-by-step process to understand each other and get on the same page.

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How to Create Win-Win Solutions

When you want one thing, and your partner another, what do you do? When you have different values around important issues like child rearing, money, sex, intimacy, work, or communication, how do you reach agreement? And if you can’t agree, how do you decide? Since disagreeing is an inevitable part of relationship, you need a process to create win-win solution. This is that process.

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How To Make An Apology That Works

When something hurtful happens in your relationship, has it ever felt sufficient when your partner merely says, “I’m sorry”, and that’s the end of it? Does it repair the damage? Does it put your relationship back to “we’re good”? Of course not! Since no one is perfect, we will say and do hurtful things to each other. To move on peacefully, we have to deliver - or receive - a full apology. Learn the six steps to an apology that works.

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How to Replace Complaints and Criticism with Constructive Communication

Do you ever feel criticized in your relationship? Is there too much arguing and bickering? Do you hear or speak way to many sharp You-statements with a pointed finger behind it? Criticism and complaining are the kiss of death to connection and good communication. Learn how to turn it into constructive communication and how you can get more of what you want.

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How To Deal With Triggers

In any marriage or relationship, you’re going to get triggered. Your partner is going to do or say stuff that drives you nuts or upsets you. Any argument you have starts with one or both of you getting triggered. Learning to deal with triggers is an essential foundational skill for a successful relationship. Learn our process for dealing with and talking about triggers and how to change them.

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How To Handle Judgments

Do you ever feel judged or criticized in your relationship? Or perhaps you’re the one doing the judging and criticizing? It’s hard feeling judged, when you sense your partner making unfair assessments about you. Judgments are a fact of relationship, so we must learn to handle them positively. Learn several tools to use judgments for increased understanding, compassion, and connection.

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How To Avoid Fights

Do you end up in pointless fights with your partner? Do you have conversations that start out calmly, turn into blow-ups? Over time, fighting saps your hope and enthusiasm. On the bright side, you can rest assured there are SO MANY better ways you can communicate. In this mini-workshop, we give you a variety of tools to unilaterally turn things around (and if you both do it, you both win:-)

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How To Feel Heard

When trying to improve communication, we typically focus on what is said. Listening is one half of communication, and few things are more frustrating than not being heard. Being able to really hear each other opens up the possibility for deep intimacy, understanding, and trust. When your partner hears you, it’s like they’re saying, “I value you. I respect you. I see you.” Listening is an art and a skill that can be learned. Watch and learn simple power-tools to feel heard!

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Positive Relationships

 

How To Stay In Love
Especially When You Feel Hurt Or Angry

Let’s face it, in relationship we get hurt and angry. It just happens in the course of living. But if it happens enough, it begins to overshadow the love we share. We begin to see more reasons to be irritated and angry, and we might even let our partner know how we really feel! Instead, how about putting some attention on staying in love, even if you do get upset at times? We will guide you through simple exercises to stay in love, especially when you get hurt or angry.

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In Love Again: How To Bring Out The Best In Your Relationship

Remember when you were first in love? When your relationship was fun and easy? But now, you’re not exactly excited to see each other, and you notice criticism and complaint sneaking into your relationship. This doesn’t have to be your love story! With some simple insights and processes, you can learn to bring out the very best in your relationship. Even be in love again!

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Getting What You Want
In Relationship

There is so much we want from our relationship. And even more we don’t want! When we try to get what we want, we make mistakes that keep us from getting it. One is, what we think we want is not what we really want – which makes it impossible to create satisfaction even if both people WANT to make their partner happy! Learn to get what you want with our simple, yet profound tools.

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How To Love And Understand Women

Being in relationship with a woman is glorious. Except when it’s frustrating and difficult. Like, why does she need to talk so much? And why is she so critical? Many of the irritating quirks and behaviors you and your partner act out, hide deeper truths and insights. Learn deeper insights and tools to talk to a woman or as a woman. Ultimately, reduce your triggers and get more of what you want!

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How To Love And Understand A Man

Being in relationship with a man is fantastic. But sometimes men are super frustrating. Like, why is it so hard for him to understand your emotional needs? Why can’t he just listen and stop the incessant fixing? Here you’ll get a much deeper insight into to the inner workings of men; how to talk to a man and as a man. A lot of mysteries will suddenly make sense!

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Play, Love & Happiness

For many couples, fun, play, and pleasure get relegated to the bottom of a very long to-do list. You get into auto-pilot routines. And when your relationship becomes a routine, your love and happiness can feel stale and tired. Play and fun matters in a relationship. Studies suggest couples who enjoy fun together have better marriages. So join the fun, learn simple ways to laugh and bust up patterns.

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How to Protect Each Other when You're Vulnerable

In many mini-workshops, we offer empowering tools and techniques to help you be your fullest potential in relationship. There’s another side to relationships, though, namely when you’re feeling vulnerable, scared, tender and small. Even the most powerful among us have a “scared kid” inside. To have a safe and deep relationship, we must include and embrace the vulnerable parts. This mini-workshop shows you how.

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How to Stay Resourceful during Challenging Times

When things get stressful, it’s easy to take out your frustrations on each other. But when you complain, fret, or blame your partner, you also relinquish your power and absolve yourself of creative responsibility. It is a masterful skill to be able to stay resourceful during challenging times. Learn how to get out of victim and stay strong and resourceful, together and individually.

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How to Create Your Relationship Purpose

There’s a saying that couples argue about the dishes when they have nothing bigger to focus on! Most couples have never thought about their purpose or considered the “Why” of their relationship. But our chances of success in relationship are many times greater when we get clear about who we are, what we are about, and what we intend to create.

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