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Gift of Conflict

Level 2: Conflict Resolution
One-day workshop to transform conflicts and create win-win solutions.

Our relationship workshops have been developed from decades of experience working with couples and singles to help them use effective tools for dealing with trust issues with their partners, deepen intimacy, resolve conflict, and for finding life long partners.

The Gift of Conflict will teach you a new way to look at and deal with conflicts, including our win-win solutions model and many practical tools.

Cost: $295 per person.
When: Contact us about dates and info.
Where: Auburn CA.

Ready for a better way to do conflicts?

About Your Facilitators

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Sonika Tinker, MSW, and Christian Pedersen, loving husband-wife team, are Relationship Experts with over 40 years combined experience coaching couples. They are the founders of The LoveWorks Solution, a practical, happy approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy and communication. They are experts at creating a safe space for couples.

Sonika is a Certified NLP Professional, Certified Enneagram Teacher, Certified Mediator and Co-author of Seize Your Opportunities and The Good Divorce. Christian is a Certified Master Coach, Certified Mediator, and Certified Master NLP Practitioner.

Workshop Details

 The Gift of Conflict is a 1-day training in a workshop setting.


We use a mixture of lecture, individual reflection, paired exercises, and various breakout activities. You do exercises with your partner and sometimes other participants. If you want to attend by yourself, we invite you to bring a friend to do exercises with you. Or contact us for help with this.

Our work engages your head, heart, and hands. In other words, we employ your logic, reach your heart, and give you practical actions to take. Add to our experiential approach the mastermind consciousness that is available in a group of like-intentioned people, and you are destined to reap the benefits from our multi-dimensional, uplifting learning method.

The Gift of Conflict Workshop is offered at $295 per person.

When: Contact us for dates and info ...

Where: Auburn CA

Why Give Yourself To Love

Resolving a conflict feels like a victory!

Resolving conflicts in a good way is true partnership. Respectfully disagreeing, listening, and sharing your viewpoints, and then coming to a win-win solution is not only mature, responsible behavior. It feels like an amazing victory every time!

Of course, it doesn’t always go that way. If you are like most couples or most people, you may have noticed that many of your conflicts are recurring – that is, they keep coming back over and over again.

Why is that?

Because you don’t have a system for dealing with them as they arise. You don’t (yet) have a model that helps you resolve your disagreements and put them to rest.

In The Gift of Conflict workshop, you’ll discover that conflicts are inevitable. In fact, conflicts are born from your commitments and desires. They are actually a positive force in your relationship … IF you know how to use them.

They can be used to help you grow and become an even better version of yourself and as a catalyst for creating more love, passion, and intimacy in your relationship.

The tools and models you’ll learn are applicable in all your relationships; with your spouse, partner, kids, friends, co-workers, employers, and employees.

Christian & I use our advanced conflict resolution system to deal with the conflicts, problems, and challenges that show up in our lives to help us expand and grow.

We have eliminated blame, criticism, and complaint in our own relationship. No kidding. We never need to have the same argument twice. Mind you, that does not mean we only have one conversation and we’re done. The process of resolving a conflict can take five minutes or three months depending on the nature of the conflict. But even a longer-lasting process is no problem if you do it respectfully and the process is progressing.

We even have fun coming up with creative solutions to challenges; creative solutions that are often much better than anything we could have thought of individually.

Unspoken or unresolved conflicts and resentments are to your relationship what heavy metals are to your body. No single small dose of mercury or lead is detrimental to your physical health. But at some point, when the concentration of these heavy metals in your blood gets too high, it becomes severe and even deadly.

Most individual conflicts don’t take you out. Like the angry way you reply when she asks why you’re home late. Or the snippy retort you have for him when he’s not paying attention. Or any of the countless arguments, fights, bickerings, and naggings that irritate you on a regular basis.

But add them all together over time and you have an unhealthy relationship situation which – if left unaddressed – will head you straight for divorce, break-up or good old fashioned misery!

You HAVE to find a successful and reliable method to deal with your conflicts if you are going to create a satisfying relationship where you feel happy, expanded and in love.

The Gift of Conflict provides a positive, reliable way to help you deal with conflicts for the rest of your life.
We’ll show you why you never need to dread or avoid conflicts. We’ll show you how to USE your conflicts for your own growth and expansion. And we'll show you how to mine the gold hidden in the “rubble” of conflict.  

With the powerful, fun, creative tools we teach, you’ll be free to move forward together, without the weight of all that painful “stuff” from the past pulling you down.

Many participants have come to this training totally buried in a particular conflict that’s been driving them nuts for years, only to resolve that same issue with the tools we teach in as little time as 10 minutes! No kidding! (Boy, are they shocked to realize how much time they’ve wasted arguing!) Of course, we don't promise that every conflict reaches resolution that fast, but it can absolutely happen.

Once you get a full understanding for WHY the same type of conflicts tend to show up in your relationship repeatedly, you’ll be on your way to being free in relationship.

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