Thu, Sep 21|
Connect: Win-Win Communication for Couples. 6-Week Course from Home
Learn effective communication tools to deal with disagreements and reach win-win solutions. From your couch.
Time & Location
Sep 21, 6:00 PM – 7:30 PM PDT
About the event
When couples call us for relationship support, communication and disagreements are the most common issues they need help with. Many say it's the #1 problem in their relationship.
Think about your own relationship. What happens when you try to talk about a topic you don’t agree on? Perhaps you’ll recognize yourself in what couples have told us over the years.
Couples tell us that when they can’t reach agreement about a important topic, they …
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- Do whatever they think is best, with inevitable fights afterwards.
- Make up a story their partner is impossible or stubborn.
- Get mean or sarcastic.
- Try to argue their way to agreement.
- Get mad!
- Turn away from one another.
- Lose hope that anything will change.
- Stack up reason upon reason to get their partner to see their point.
- Give up trying.
In any partnership, it’s crucial that we can make decisions together. Otherwise the myriad decisions of life become an ongoing struggle. It’s demoralizing and exhausting when you can’t talk about important topics like loving, mature adults. If lack of agreement becomes the norm, it begins to seep into the rest of your relationship. You might begin to each do whatever you see fit and slowly lose faith in you as a team. And that’s a dangerous spot for any marriage or long-term relationship.
One of the reasons it’s so tricky to reach agreement about important topics is that you’re almost always dealing with two different elements of your communication: practical and emotional.
On a practical level, we need to make decisions and take action around a thousand things in life: What kind of food to eat, how to pay our bills, where to live or send kids to school, how to structure our time, where to spend Christmas, or simply who does the stack of chores we have on any given day.
When we have strong opinions and values about a topic, the emotional element becomes more important in the communication. For some couples, emotional or touchy subjects are about their children. For others, it's about drinking and partying; how to handle family relations; or how much stuff is in the house.
Only when we include both practical and emotional communication do we reach solutions that are satisfying to both of us. Sure, sometimes you can get your way by “winning” the argument … but at what cost to your relationship? To have a lasting, strong team, you need two happy players who both feel heard and considered.
Thousands of couples have told us they long for effective communication to reach workable solutions. Actually, more than long for, they need it. We all do. It is because of this need that we designed this six-week course, Win-Win Communication For Couples (on the full course page you can watch short demo videos)
Full disclosure, this is not an instant fix to all your communication difficulties. It takes effort, trial-and-error, and a willingness to try out new tools and ideas. And maybe also stretching yourself a bit beyond your current comfort zone.
Between the two us, we have over 40 years experience coaching and educating couples. We are constantly refining and adjusting the tools to work better. This course is a step-by-step process designed for busy couples to get cutting-edge insights and techniques without needing to book a hotel room or break the bank.
Some of the highlights of what you’ll learn:
- How to discover the real reason you get upset in disagreements.
- How to include each others’ viewpoints in discussions.
- How to keep the conversation civil, even with touchy subjects.
- How to approach a conflict like a team (instead of adversaries duking it out).
- How to use effective communication tools for conflict resolution.
- How to care for each other’s vulnerabilities and sensitivities.
- How to have conversations that lead to action steps.
- How to share deeply personal content with each other.
- How to create win-win solutions to any disagreement together.
- Plus, specific step-by-step communication tools to accomplish all this.
What's in the course
We’ve made it as simple and easy to do as possible. Each week for 6 weeks, we meet for 90 minutes via Zoom. In each session, we’ll teach core insights and techniques, and you practice with your partner at home, with our guidance.
You will receive all the tools and techniques you learn as written PDF documents. You will get recordings of the classes and can access it as long as you like afterwards.
Each week, we’ll give you a few key practices to experiment with. That’s it. There are no books or academic texts to read; no extra videos to watch; no essays to write. There’s no test at the end, just the two of you doing your best to connect and try on new tools.
You’ll get personal coaching and guidance from Sonika and Christian. During the course, you can text or email us any questions you have.
The course is $495 per couple.
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Contact us with any questions you have. Use the Chat button on this page or call 800-701-7043 or email email@example.com.
We look forward to connecting with you :-)
Win-Win Communication Course